Forgiveness + A Creamy Date Shake Recipe
Creative Living Wellness By Leigh Reagan Smith
Forgiveness is the most powerful way to transform your life. I can’t begin to put into words the sheer impact forgiveness has on our mind, body, and soul.
The act of releasing anger, resentment, and blame, alters your entire being. Elevated stress levels due to holding onto toxic emotions for years can and does impact the immune system. The inability to forgive robs us of our health and happiness.
People often want to know why someone “wronged” them before they are able to forgive but this actually blocks forgiveness. We may never understand why someone has treated us poorly and to truly release resentment on a cellular level, our judgement of the person or situation must be taken out of the equation.
This is not to say that a past injustice or any form of abuse should be accepted or tolerated. It is also important to ask for help and have the guidance of a therapist when uncovering buried emotions due to past trauma.
No matter the situation, the act of forgiveness is for you, not the perpetrator. Holding onto feelings of being a victim keeps you stuck. Finding compassion and love surrounding a painful memory or trauma is essential to your well being by reducing neurochemicals that drain and debilitate your system.
If you want to forgive yourself, begin with the breath and the desire to forgive. Take the time to be honest with how you feel. You do not need to rush the process. Making a decision to release shame and guilt is the greatest gift you can give yourself.
Our Heart Frees Us
For years, I held onto resentment of someone who treated me badly. I finally decided that I did not want to carry around this negative energy in my mind and body any longer. I made the commitment to forgive. I wasn’t sure how to do it but figured it was worth a try.
I focused on a white light around the person who hurt me and I sent them love and forgiveness. At first I felt angry and upset, but I continued to do this exercise many times over the course of months. Eventually it got easier and my life literally began to shift for the better because I felt lighter and happier.
Think of a person or situation that has caused you resentment. If you are in need of forgiving yourself, picture yourself in a white healing light. When past emotions, thoughts, anger, and hurt arises, send them to your heart. Your heart is your body’s detoxifier. You are contacting your deeper intelligence, your heart intelligence. This exercise may take time as emotions and thoughts continue to flood your psyche. Be gentle and kind with yourself and continue to focus on sending whatever comes up to your heart.
Try to feel and send love, compassion, and forgiveness to the person, yourself or the situation. You may need to practice this exercise many times until you begin to feel the release of deep anger, resentment, and pain. This exercise is like giving yourself a deep energetic wash.
Fire Log Pose (DO NOT do this pose if you feel any pain in the knees.)
Yoga poses provide us with the opportunity to release toxic emotions and fill our being with the freedom of forgiveness. Fire Log Pose opens up the hips, a place on the body where we often store unwanted emotion.
From a seated position, place the left foot or ankle on top of the right knee and slide the right foot forward until it is directly below the left knee. Inhale and press the hips down and reach the crown of the head up towards the ceiling. Gently allow the knees to relax down towards the floor to open the hips. Keeping the back flat and the chest open, exhale and gently reach your torso forward as far as comfortable and either hold onto the knees or walk your hands forward. Breathe and hold for 2-6 breaths. Repeat on the other side.
We too often use unhealthy foods to self-medicate, especially when holding onto past pain, resentment, shame, or guilt. Unfortunately foods loaded with sugar and hydrogenated oils that raise blood sugar and bad cholesterol keep us emotionally stuck by perpetuating feelings of depression, sadness, and anger.
Healthy foods not only boost mood but they can be yummy and self-nurturing.
Try this sugar free, gluten free, and dairy free recipe for a healthy twist on the milk shake. This shake curbs sugar cravings with a low glycemic and emotionally satisfying alternative.
Creamy Date Shake Recipe
2 frozen bananas
1-1.5 cups of your favorite milk or unsweetened almond, coconut or hemp milk
4-5 pitted Medjool dates
1/4 teaspoon ground nutmeg
1/4 teaspoon cinnamon
1 teaspoon vanilla
Soak dates for 30 mins in the milk so the milk absorbs the flavor and the dates soften. Mix all ingredients in a blender or food processor. Blend until creamy. Pour into a glass and add extra nutmeg on top.
Forgiveness is what makes us human and it’s one of our greatest powers. Step into your power.
Tips on How to Forgive:
Eat healthy self-nourishing foods
Be Kind to Yourself
Be Honest with How You Feel
Be Patient with Yourself
Practice a Meditative Visualization Focusing on Forgiveness