Just Ask Jeni-Ji: Have I Met My Soul Mate?
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While on a solo travel journey around the world, I met someone I felt a strong soulmate connection with, and that feeling has never left me since. We’ve been in contact on and off for the past four years, but he lives in Europe and I live in the US. We recently saw each other again and have decided to take our relationship to the next level. In my heart I feel like this is my life partner and soul mate, but the logistics of how to make it work are a big challenge. How do I know I’m making the right decision?
Namaste Jane and thank you for your question. What I keep hearing is “follow your heart, it knows the way.” You are a brave woman who does not hold back. You are one to follow life with flow. Listen to the calling of your soul and let any and all fears go. When you live in soul and not ego, it will liberate your heart and soul which will bring you closer to truth. Your soul’s energy shows me a “goddess warrior spirit’ who lives life to the fullest.
When you silence the mind and meditate, what does your soul show you? How does your body respond when you are shown truth? How are things flowing and feeling within? It’s wonderful how you connected with this person years ago and have stayed in touch. It is important to get to know someone first before jumping into a relationship. When you can share your vulnerabilities, fears, emotions, sadness, joy, etc., you start to connect with them unconditionally. That is a true authentic connection with a soul mate, as you are aligned within integrity and truth. When you see their soul, that is powerful. Love is unconditional and can you imagine falling in love with your best friend…who is your partner, ponder on that.
Having a long-distance relationship has its ups and downs. What keeps a relationship together is communication. Getting to know this person more and more from a distance can be a real blessing when you are not attaching to any outcome. When we attach to outcomes, we do not see clarity, we only see the fairy tale of what we desire. When we are aligned in the very essence of each moment, we can stay in that moment of gratitude sharing time and giving each other space. Giving each other space is very healthy. It builds trust between you both, with no control. Why would you want to control anyone? Would you want your partner to control you? I explain this to many of my clients to not attach to anyone or any situation.
Most of us want to find real unconditional love with someone and the only way to do that is to trust the process of divine timing. When you are ready, when you least expect it, that’s when it usually happens. You have to love yourself first before you can love another. And when we see a potential mate regardless of where they are located, pause and get to truly know them by taking one day at a time, one moment at a time and completely surrender the process all together.
Take that leap of faith and make it happen. Walk into the magic of the unknown. Don’t worry what the outcome will be. With having a partner in another country, you could have two homes. One home for the winter and one home for another season. There are many benefits, especially with technology today, to be able to video call each other on many devices. Distance away can also bring you closer to them as you will miss each other more and really look forward to seeing each other again. I can hardly wait to see you! I miss you! Live in LOVE not ego.
Life is all about taking chances and risks because if you don’t follow your heart you will never know. Most of the men I’ve dated live on the other side of the country or in different countries and I get to know them before physically meeting them to see if we click. What values do we have? What do we want in life? Can I truly connect with them spiritually? mentally? sexually? unconditionally? emotionally? Do we support each other in a positive way? What do we have in common? Do we want children? Does he like animals? When you are going through a difficult time, will they be there for you? Even if not in person, but by phone. Ponder on this and only in time will you truly see and feel it in your soul .
Let any limitations go and wait no more. Let soul move you. The both of you are connected from a previous lifetime, that is why you are feeling the cosmic connection of eternal love. Allow love to guide you through by staying aligned within the heart and mind. Allow heart and mind to be as one, to come into vibrational harmony with each other.
Getting to know each other takes time. What is the rush? Enjoy life and most importantly always be true to you! Speak from your heart - the truth always.
Wishing you both an exciting adventure within your hearts. The journey has now begun. Magic is in the air.
Om Shanti Om